21 May The Bride’s Crucial How to Guide: Guest Lists
Making a guest list is easily one of the most daunting tasks during wedding planning. It can be very difficult to decide who to invite, and who not to invite… and the guest list can change over and over and over again. Maybe you don’t talk to that co-worker you were thinking of inviting before, or maybe you got a new job and want to score some brownie points by inviting your new boss and her spouse…
See what I mean? The guest list can change instantly. It can be a very difficult task narrowing everyone down. We are going to do your best to help you out with it!
Invite the musts first – that is your immediate families and wedding party. Moms, dads, step moms, step dads, grandparents, siblings, bridesmaids and groomsmen. Get the easy part out of the way – you know they’ll be there anyway!
Go through your list of more distant relatives. We suggest doing this with your respective families first, and then together. It might be really important to your dad to invite his uncle that you met one time at a family reunion 6 years ago. Do your best to make room for those people, but if you just can’t afford it, let your parents know in advance that those people may be on your “maybe list”.
Next, go through friends. If you haven’t seen them in the past year, you can probably rule them out. If you haven’t spoken to them in the last 6 months, you can probably rule them out. If they are people you are with quite often (outside of work), seriously consider inviting them.
Coworkers and people you don’t see outside of work would be last on your list. If there is space, invite them, if there is not, don’t worry about it! Chances are, they will understand.
If people start giving you the “oh I can’t wait for your wedding, when are you sending out your invitations?” and they are not actually invited, it is always safe to say “we’re having a really small wedding, just family.” People generally don’t get too upset with that.