Guest Lists, Invites and Thank You Cards

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Building your guest list and choosing your save-the-dates, wedding invites and thank you cards are an important step in planning and organizing your wedding!


When you are planning your guest list you need to set some limits. Most couples have several factors to consider, including their budget and the size of the facility where the wedding is going to take place. If you need to set limits you should also prioritise your guest list to an “A list” immediate family members, members of the wedding party, and closest friends. You both need to establish the ground rules up front and have both families abide by these ground rules. Some examples are no co-workers, no dates for single guests, no distant relatives, or maybe no children. It is best to be up front and let your parents and future in-laws know before hand how many guests they are allocated. Another tip is to send out wedding announcements to individuals whom know about the wedding but you are unable to invite due to limitations.


  • Finalize and “Cut” the list: Separate your list into a “A” and “B” list. The “A'” list is composed of family and friends who you can’t imagine not being there and the “B” list is composed of people that you would like to attend, but whose absence wouldn’t upset you. Send invitations out to the “A” list first then when you receive regrets, send out invitations to the people on your “B” list.
  • Invitations should be ordered at least three months prior (at this time you must have your locations for the ceremony and the reception confirmed)
  • Invitations should consist of the “invitation”, the envelope, the response card and a stamped envelope for the response card.
  • Order at least 30 extra invitations for mistakes and last minute additions.
  • Mail invitations out at least six weeks before the wedding to allow enough time to receive the response cards.
  • No nicknames should be permitted and the date and time should be written out in full.
  • Addressing Etiquette: use full names including first names, write out all words (including “and”) and use figures only when writing house numbers and postal codes, write first names of children to be invited below the parents in age order, children over the age of 16 should receive their own invitation and on inner envelopes exclude first names
Guest Outer Envelope Inner Envelope
Married couple with children Mr. and Mrs. Smith Mr. and Mrs. Smith John, Susie and James
Married couple and wife kept maiden name Ms. Grant
Mr. Johnson
Ms. Grant
Mr. Johnson
Unmarried man with guest Mr. Joe Smith Mr. Smith and Guest
Unmarried woman with guest Miss Ann Smith Miss Smith and Guest
Divorced woman Mrs. Ann Smith Mrs. Smith
Widow Mrs. Robert Howe Mrs. Howe
Two or more sisters living at home The Misses Ann and Linda Smith The Misses Smith
Two or more brothers living at home The Messrs. John and Tom Smith The Messrs. Smith
Two married doctors The Doctors Neil and Shannon Smith The Doctors Smith
Unmarried couple living Miss Amy Olson
Mr. Todd Smith
Miss Olson
Mr. Smith

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The well planned bride always keeps thank-you cards at her fingertips. You will need to send thank-you cards after your bridal showers and engagement parties. These will come from the bride herself. After your wedding day you will need to send thank-you cards for your wedding gifts. These will come from the bride and groom using their newly married titles. It is also good to keep some special thank-you cards on hand to thank someone who has gone out of their way to help you or make your day special.


Professional Wedding Planners

Professional Wedding Planners are the creative genius behind many dream weddings. Many couples have demanding careers that do not enable them the time or energy to plan their special day the way they want it to be. Wedding consultants provide professional help and expertise. Their responsibilities include start to finish wedding planning plus their connections with allied firms that are reputable and cost saving freeing up your valuable time. Most consultants charge a flat fee or charge by the hour if require help in a specific area?

Planning Your Own Wedding

Most brides today are truly fortunate as there are many magazines and planning guides in the market to help you create your dream wedding. Shows like Bridal Fantasy are also a good venue for couples to get an overall view on this years wedding scene and some great information on the products, venues, catering, fashion, and services that they will be requiring.