Remarriage

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In approximately 46% of weddings today, the bride or groom has been previously married. As remarriages become more common, wedding etiquette regarding size and ceremony has become much more flexible. For example, a second wedding can be larger and more elaborate than the first if desired. However, there are special conditions that need to be considered.

Announcements: Children of the couple should be the first to know, then their parents, friends and relatives.

Invitations: Invitations are printed for large or formal remarriages; after a private ceremony, send announcements. The invitation’s wording should fit the circumstances properly.

Ceremony: If you want to be remarried in a church, contact your clergy member right away, as certain remarriage regulations must be followed for religious services. Regardless of the ceremony size, the children of the bride or groom may participate as attendants. The bride is escorted (the bride is never “given away” a second time) by her father, brother, son or her husband to be, or may walk down the aisle on her own.

Attire: Only two guidelines should be followed by the bride: she should never wear either a full face veil (it symbolizes virginity) or a long train (still exclusively worn by first brides). Otherwise, the bride can wear any color or style of wedding dress. The groom should follow the bride’s lead – he can wear anything from a tuxedo to jeans.

Honeymoon: One necessity for any remarriage is a honeymoon. A practical way to solidify a new family is to split the honeymoon in half: the newlyweds spend half the time alone and can be joined for the other half of their honeymoon by their children, if desired.