08 May Compromising Your Career For Marriage
Entering a new relationship is pure bliss. Though once everything gets a little more serious and you’re married, the maturity of your relationship can change. Once you’re married, you’re not only thinking about yourself. You have to think of what your partner feels and the future marriage you want to build together. Sure, there are some things you have to compromise. Sometimes, this can also mean compromising the career you have built for yourself.
Having a successful career means the world to some people. However, we tend to forget everything once we get attached to someone. True love is hard to find, that’s why people are likely to choose love over their career. In a perfect world, no one ever looks back and thinks of the “what if’s”, but in reality it’s quite the opposite. Building a career gives someone a sense of identity, and when it’s compromised people can get upset. Some marriages are put on a pedestal because of this and some even lead to divorce. Now, you’re happy with your marriage but also want to build a career for your personal growth. Is it right to compromise one for the other?
When you choose to compromise your career for love, it is inevitable to think of the “what if’s”. However, this is a phase that most career oriented people go through. It’s not that you regret choosing the latter, it could be possibly because you also love your career that much. As cliché as it seems, the key to a strong marriage is open communication. Remember that keeping everything to yourself can build resentment. Let your partner know what you want to achieve as an individual. As their partner, you also have to know what would make them grow as a person. Marriage should not be the cause of loosing someone’s identity. It should not be a reason to hold back. If anything, marriage makes a person complete. Marriage is a two way process and for it to work, couple’s need to support each others’ wants and needs, as well as each others’ passion and career.
“What if’s” do not define how happy you are with your marriage. While being open to your partner is important, you also have to work on yourself to achieve what you want in life. Whether you’re married or not, it will always be our human nature to want something more. In order to fully commit on being a good wife or a good husband, you also have to commit on being the best version of yourself. We will always want the best for our partner, but know that our partner wants the best for us too. And really, who said you can’t have a successful career and a strong marriage? You can always build a career anytime as long as you work hard on it. Marriage is a beginning of bigger and brighter things, not the end of your career.
Written By: Krizzia Navarroza Scollon