17 Jan The heart of a new bride
Take a Moment to Be Still, Be Loved & Be Happy.
Bride: Monique — They had only dated eight months before the tall, brawny blonde bent down on his knee beside the stunning blue of Lake Louise and slipped the delicate diamond ring on her slender, brown finger.
Bride: Kirsten — The New Year had hardly begun as the rooky medical student snuggled up to his girlfriend of six years on their first ever helicopter tour in the Canadian Rockies. Little did she know what awaited her at the end of the ride: a small hanger stuffed with wide-eyed family and friends anxiously awaiting her exuberant cry, “Yes!”
Bride: Anne Marie — It had been a long, early morning of searching for clues and making wrong turns as she worked determinedly to decipher his unconventional scavenger hunt. The sun had barely risen as she rounded the corner of the final destination – a simple structure above the river where her soon-to-be groom held a rose gold ring in his pants pocket.
Whatever your story, your engagement season will likely be one of the most exciting times of your life. It doesn’t matter if you said, “Yes,” “Of course,” “What took you so long?” or could only manage an emotional nod of the head, you’re bound to be one happy fiancé.
But it’s 2018 – the age of wedding magazines at every supermarket, elaborate Kardashian nuptials and the ever-necessary Pinterest-bride-boards. (Don’t pretend you don’t have at least one.) And while you daydream – and real-dream – of meeting your man at the end of the aisle, other thoughts may begin to gnaw at your sleep schedule…
When should we get married? Is summer too soon? Or too hot? And how many people can we afford to invite? And what should we have for food? And do we have to have a “midnight lunch”? And who came up with this whole midnight lunch idea?!”
Let’s be honest, the bride has a lot on her mind.
There’s nothing wrong with planning – on the contrary, it’s essential to pulling off a tasteful wedding. But there’s a danger that can lurk among the venue searches and register dates and guest lists and Instagram posts: you run short on time to just be still, be loved, and be happy.
That’s not to say there’s no love or happiness in wedding planning, but there is very little stillness. Again, this is one of the most exciting times of your life, and you don’t want to race through it like a Triple Crown thoroughbred, sporting blinders that keep you focused strictly forward and away from any and all distractions (including your own joy).
When you bear down only on your wedding planning, you run the risk of becoming weary and exhausted, and you may even begin to subconsciously view your big day as an obstacle to overcome, rather than a blissful occasion to anticipate and deeply savour.
So take a moment to just be still. Let yourself bask in the ecstasy you feel when your fiancé wraps his arms around you. Laugh, and drink in the joy of your loved ones being happy for you. Look how very pretty that ring looks on your finger, as if the two were made for each other almost as much as you and your groom were. If all this means committing to a week or two with no planning whatsoever, or even just a few extra long walks with your future mate, then so be it.
Yes, run the wedding race, but take the blinders off, and enjoy this final leg of dating. All too soon this track will end, and you’ll be onto a new adventure, this time as a Mrs.