Preserving the essence of love

Planning a wedding is the easy part. Yes, there are hundreds of little details to which you must attend; the dress, flowers, venue, choosing a wedding party, etc. All are very important, but nothing is more essential than remembering to preserve the essence of your love, which is not always easy.

Couples are quite taken with one another in the days leading up to the engagement. It is exciting and scary at the same time, not knowing how things will turn out. You wonder; “Is he the one” and “Will we live happily ever after?” Suddenly, the proposal; and you’re incredibly happy to know for sure, that this is the one with whom you will spend the rest of your life. It is glorious, but you’re in dangerous territory. It’s time to begin planning your wedding, but if not careful, a couple can lose sight of one another, as the wedding day becomes their focal point.

Don’t lose the essence of why you’re planning a wedding. It’s certainly not to showcase your mad planning skills. A wedding is an opportunity to publically express your love for one another, to demonstrate before witnesses that you intend to last forever, to go the distance and through thick and thin to live happily ever. The wedding takes center stage, but in the grand scheme of things, you’re planning a marriage and not just an event. It’s easy to lose sight of that when you’re up to your elbows in crystal and tulle. But, don’t do it.

Communicate with one another and not just about the mechanics of the wedding. Sure, the wedding isn’t going to plan itself, but find a moment (or 10) to focus on continuing to grow your relationship. Don’t put off cultivating your love for one another until after the wedding. The crystal and tulle donning the wedding party’s table is pretty enough, but a bride and groom who are obviously into one another, is what will really move your guests.

It’s daunting, the sheer volume of questions that couples field leading up to a wedding. Wedding planning is emotional work. It’s very easy to become drained. Couples might gravitate to time away from one another. A little time apart is fine, but it’s time to reevaluate how heavily involved you are in wedding planning, when distance doesn’t make the heart grow fonder. Save your rattled nerves. Let someone else take the helm and field planning questions. A wedding planner can direct wedding planning traffic, while you’re tucked away nicely behind the scenes.

Preserve the essence of your love. Otherwise, what’s the point?