In the time of COVID-19, small, intimate celebrations such a micro-weddings and elopements have increased in popularity. But these small events have a new, smaller contender on the rise – The Minimony! Minimonies are becoming increasingly popular, and are usually followed up by a “sequel wedding”.
If you’re hoping to continue with your original wedding date, you’ll need to decide which ceremony option is best for you and your partner: a micro-wedding, an elopement or a minimony. We’ve compiled some information about each type of wedding to help you decide.
Minimonies: What Are They?
To put it simply, a minimony is a mini ceremony including you, your partner, your officiant, and your witnesses. Some people are choosing to also invite their closest loved ones, such as parents, siblings, and grandparents.
Minimonies differ from micro-weddings in size and meaning. A minimony is considered a commitment ceremony between you and your partner. A micro-wedding is more along the lines of a traditional wedding, just with smaller guest lists. Micro-weddings are usually up to 50 guests, where a minimony is usually 10 or 12 people, including the bride and groom.
The health and safety of you and your loved ones should be a priority when it comes to planning a minimony. Many couples are starting to consider this style of wedding for the 2020 summer (and even fall) season.
So, How Is This Different Than a Micro-Wedding?
Micro-weddings are a cross between an elopement and a large, traditional wedding. This style of wedding is a favourite among couples who really want to focus their budget and time on smaller details. They tend to focus more on the couple and the guests’ experience.
But couples who plan to host a micro-wedding doesn’t necessarily mean they’re cutting corners. Because of the smaller guest count, couples throwing micro-weddings usually splurge on other areas of the ceremony. This could mean a high-end sit-down dinner or splurging on a top-shelf bar option.
How Do These Options Differ from Elopements?
Traditionally, elopements were a spur-of-the-moment event involving some secrecy. But in the last few years, elopements have evolved due to couples wanting to be able to personalize more aspects of their wedding. While there is still the element of romance associated with elopements, there is much less secrecy surrounding the event.
There are many reasons that couples will decide to elope. The most common reasons are that the couple may not have the budget to have a traditional wedding, or they just feel they don’t need to have a large party to celebrate. While this isn’t always the case in modern days, they are still reasons that couples consider when planning their wedding.
Hosting a Minimony
Here are some great tips to hosting a wonderful and romantic minimony:
- Wear Your Wedding Outfits: This is your wedding ceremony after all! We encourage you to wear what you planned to wear on the day (if you have access to it). You bought those outfits for a reason, so why not be sure to wear them? If you don’t have the whole outfit, wear any of the pieces that you do have, and save your full wedding look for your sequel wedding.
- Limit Your Guest List: When it comes to planning a minimony, the point is to only have a few of your closet loved ones in attendance. Many of your original guests will understand and be happy to wait for the future ceremony and reception.
- Keep Your Vows Secret: If you’re planning a sequel wedding, keep your minimony small and keep your original vows a secret until then. This will give you something to look forward to and will ensure that your minimony is shorter and more personal.
- Hire a Short-Term Photographer: Even though this isn’t the big ceremony, you should still capture the special moments of the day. We suggest hiring a photographer for a couple of hours to get some wonderful shots of you and your partner. You can use these photos on Change the Dates or your wedding website to give your guests a taste of what’s to come at your sequel wedding.
- Don’t Forget to Include Your Vendors: You’ve probably been working with your vendors for months, so why not include them in your minimony, too? Ask your florist if they would be willing to make a small version of your bouquet for you. Have your baker create a mini-version of your wedding cake so you can still have something to cut. You could even see if your caterer will do a small breakfast or lunch for you and your partner, or some hors d’oeuvres for your guests.
The Sequel Wedding
After the initial ceremony, many couples want to continue planning the big wedding they originally wanted for a later date. The “sequel wedding” is a large-scale event with all your family and friends invited. (This term was first defined in 2019 by The Knot.) This is where you can bring your original wedding vision to life – from over the top centrepieces to that family tradition of the Chicken Dance.
You’re probably reading this thinking “Won’t people think we’re selfish to have both?” Our answer? No! We should encourage every couple who is having to postpone due to the Coronavirus pandemic to have both. Why should anyone have to give up their dream completely?
If you plan on hosting a minimony, it’s completely up to you if you let your guests know or not. You can choose to keep it a secret, so it feels more like an elopement, or you can invite your closest loved ones (don’t forget to maintain social distancing!).
Are you looking for other helpful tips and articles about planning your wedding during a pandemic? We have a whole list of articles for you here.